This is a tough one. I have no idea what my family will look like in 2025. I'm pretty traditional, so I imagine gender roles will be pretty strong, but not restrictive. My husband will do anything that requires lifting or strength in general such as shoveling, snowblowing, and other outdoor work. I don't mind cooking, but I don't want to do it all the time. I don't mind doing laundry either, so that means I'm probably doing the laundry. I hate vacuuming, so my husband does that or it doesn't get done.
As far as raising children, that's joint thing. I think men can be just as nurturing as a woman. Because I am a good communicator, it would seem natural that I would be the one that informs everyone, that everyone talks to, gets advice from, etc. However, I think it would be awesome if my husband were that way too. Then my children wouldn't see communication as a womans role, but they would see it modeled in both of us and see good communication as a way of life.
My husband will most likely be the breadwinner. He will make the bulk of the money and I will budget it. Most of all, he will be the spiritual leader in the family. Throughout our marriage, we will probably take turns with that, but overall, he will be the leader.
Also, my husband is amazing and has great taste in music.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Friday, October 8, 2010
Rules Redo
Okay, since I was gone at the end of class, I misunderstood the assignment. So I am redoing it. If you already responded on my other one, don't worry about it.
It's hard to say what the communication rules are because things are pretty much fair game in my house. On one hand, we are very Norwegian, so we can be very stoic with expressions and conversations.
1) We talk about money (rarely-until I became interested), but not in terms of actual figures. I'm the money talker in the house. I read Suze Orman books and tell them what I know. I try to get girl members of my family and friends to talk about money because women generally don't and they don't know what to do with their money (how to budget, invest, etc.). This is where i come in and get the ball rolling. I've noticed that now my family and friends talk about money more now too and will ask me for input.
2) We don't usually share what's "on our heart/mind" with other family members in too much depth. This is usually reserved for close relationships outside the family. Family communication is generally pretty surface (some depth), but when it really comes down to something big, you can turn to anybody in the family for support.
It's hard to say what the communication rules are because things are pretty much fair game in my house. On one hand, we are very Norwegian, so we can be very stoic with expressions and conversations.
1) We talk about money (rarely-until I became interested), but not in terms of actual figures. I'm the money talker in the house. I read Suze Orman books and tell them what I know. I try to get girl members of my family and friends to talk about money because women generally don't and they don't know what to do with their money (how to budget, invest, etc.). This is where i come in and get the ball rolling. I've noticed that now my family and friends talk about money more now too and will ask me for input.
2) We don't usually share what's "on our heart/mind" with other family members in too much depth. This is usually reserved for close relationships outside the family. Family communication is generally pretty surface (some depth), but when it really comes down to something big, you can turn to anybody in the family for support.
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Family Rules
Rule #1: Don't take long showers too often. If you are in the shower too long, too many times in a row...my mother will turn the water heater off until you get out.
Rule #2: All the children in the extended family must perform (sing, play an instrument, read poetry, put on a skit such as "Scrooge", etc.) if they want to open their Christmas gifts. You can do something by yourself. You can team up with others. But you will do something. When you don't want to, you are told that you have to do this every year until you are an adult then you don't have to anymore. Once you turn 18, you realize this isn't true and the only real way to get out of this is by getting married (making you an official adult) or reproducing to bear the next generation of performing children. In short, the only way out is by having a child to replace you in the annual family Christmas talent show.
Rule #2: All the children in the extended family must perform (sing, play an instrument, read poetry, put on a skit such as "Scrooge", etc.) if they want to open their Christmas gifts. You can do something by yourself. You can team up with others. But you will do something. When you don't want to, you are told that you have to do this every year until you are an adult then you don't have to anymore. Once you turn 18, you realize this isn't true and the only real way to get out of this is by getting married (making you an official adult) or reproducing to bear the next generation of performing children. In short, the only way out is by having a child to replace you in the annual family Christmas talent show.
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